Why are you making me wait to have sex? 6 most common reasons and how to speed them up
Some girls give up on their first dates, while others (the best catches) keep you waiting longer. How long she makes you wait is what decides the outcome of your relationship. Before we get to the actual reasons, I want to point out that if she’s having sex with you on the first date / night, she’s either very insecure or just interested in having fun. If she makes you wait more than 2 nights (including 3 months or other periods of insanity), the following reasons fit.
Want a relationship
This is the central reason that generates the rest. You have to think that if she wants you to wait; she is clearly interested in a relationship. Before you even start waiting or paying more attention to this particular woman, you must decide now whether or not she is worth it. In some cases it can happen after 3 dates, but in others it takes months, you don’t want to put in all that effort unless you’re really sure she’s worth it.
Usually I don’t mind going to 3-4 dates MAX with no results, if I get to 3-4 dates and it hasn’t happened then I chase or give up. I highly recommend following the same principles to end up in a committed relationship without really wanting to – it’s no fun.
Hoping to establish trust
Moving on, according to most of the women who have answered this question, this is their core reason. It means many things to women, much more than it would mean to us men, so I will do my best to exemplify.
Most importantly, she wants to know that you will call her the next day. She also wants to know if you are the type of man who does not sleep with her once she has slept with you. And finally she wants to know if you are a good investment and being with you is not a bad choice (the investment problem can be avoided if you make her feel good all the time). The only way to speed this up is to constantly reassure her that you’re interested, that you feel good about her, that you can’t wait to see her next time, etc.
Wants to know your intentions
This is pretty obvious, she clearly wants to know if you are going to sleep with her and you will never call her back. This can be easily cleared up if you don’t insist on having sex every 5 seconds. If I take them to bed and it seems like they don’t want to have sex, there are a couple of ways to approach this. The first night I try 3 times (to get to her panties, which is usually the place where they say no) and if she says no, then no. The second night I don’t try at all, making her think that I’m not only interested in sex and on the third night I try again, but only once.
This system shows him that you are interested in having sex, but it is not your main goal. Keep working on this in the same pattern until it happens, one night you try, the next night you don’t. If followed correctly, you will become confused and, as an emotional creature, will eventually give in.
* Full side note, which has nothing to do with this article, you can do the same once in a relationship and then the woman will never be bored. I’m not talking about sex here, I’m talking about your attitudes towards her, one day you love her to pieces, the other day it’s like you don’t want her anymore, then again and again, her conflicting emotions won ‘I don’t know what the hell is going on and the relationship will stay interesting. She will love you for this and will never be bored. *
Enjoying the early stages of a relationship
Women like the attention men give them before having sex. Some men go so far as to get them flowers every day, take them on vacations and all kinds of things, it is natural that women like this kind of attention. It is what makes them more interesting women and also our life partners. I haven’t seen many men get into a relationship with a girl they had drunk sex with after a night out.
To help speed up the process and go against my whole gamer personality, you will have to do “trustworthy” and “romantic” things. Get her some flowers and take her to a nice restaurant, no more than that since they really don’t deserve it yet, as far as you know they could be very bad in bed.
Doesn’t want to be considered easy
Some women firmly believe that if they sleep with a guy the first night, they are a whore. In some cases, and this is why I mentioned 3-4 dates at the beginning of the article, the girls sleep with you after the second date just because they don’t want to be called easy. Between you and me, don’t you think 2 dates is still easy? It doesn’t even have to be 2 dates, it could be 2 nights at the club, they have no idea who they are, but still, since she didn’t sleep with you on the first night, she thinks she’s not a whore …
Your own reasons and insecurities
There can be an infinite amount of personal issues, but I’ve commonly noticed that the following tend to be popular: Bad ex-boyfriend who cheated on her (again proves you’re trustworthy), just got out of relationship (but you’re still into bed with another man?), a bad sexual experience (the sex she had was not great and she is very unsure of her next encounter; to get over this, you have to prove that you are a stud. work her pressure points and show her that you would be a fantastic lover), trust issues with men or with people in general. If you have serious problems, think about other possibilities, like getting another girl.
Why not make her wait?
This is a fantastic technique that I used with some girls and it worked really well. It’s about playing with my 1-night system, try 1 night, don’t test, but it’s a bit more different.
When you take her to bed, do it consistently and do a little easy kino, but not too much. Always make her want more, after a couple of nights she will be very confused about what is going on, why isn’t this guy trying anything? Don’t you find me attractive? Some guys went so far as to quickly ignore her when they were in bed, this happened to me once, I just wasn’t sure if I should try something or not until she asked me if I found her unattractive, needless to say. I told him about my “feelings” and we ended up having sex.
I want you to seriously consider the implications of having sex with her before going through all her obstacles. Most of the time, it really isn’t worth it.